This just in: there's a good chance every person you resent, you also envy. "No," you say? "Not me, Sara. That makes no sense. I resent the people I resent because they're awful--what could I possibly envy about an awful person? Try to be … [Read more...] about How Envy is the Root of Resentment
spirit & personal
Our Two Week Phillippines Winter Holiday Itinerary
My family and I recently chose to spend our Christmas vacation in the Phillippines. The reasons were random and probably wouldn't be yours: our daughter was traveling the world (in Vietnam right before this time) and my husband had lived in the … [Read more...] about Our Two Week Phillippines Winter Holiday Itinerary
I Know What I Need to Do, How do I Get Myself to Do it?
I'm preparing to lead this "Healer, Heal Thyself" support group for one year starting in January. As interested as I am in the tools that have worked for me and others to get well (whole foods, exercise, meditation, gratitude, forgiveness, service), … [Read more...] about I Know What I Need to Do, How do I Get Myself to Do it?
How to Find the Perfect Friend (hint: spend time with them)
Do you spend a lot of time looking for the perfect partner or friend, one who really meets your needs or shares your interests? Does that work? There's a prevalent mythology that we connect with people by having mutual interests, mutual sense of … [Read more...] about How to Find the Perfect Friend (hint: spend time with them)
What if Plenty is Enough and Enough is Plenty?
For obvious reasons, everyone talks about gratitude at Thanksgiving, but what about the concept of "plenty"? Isn't Thanksgiving a time for sharing what we have with one another? And don't most of us have "plenty"? Strangely, another word for … [Read more...] about What if Plenty is Enough and Enough is Plenty?
I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me, I Thank You, I Love You or Wine, Chocolate & Impulse Purchases?
We all yearn to hear these words from someone, but do we say them ourselves? This past week, as I toggle between despair and anger at the election of a narcissistic potentate, anger seems the better option. Wine, dark chocolate, and impulse purchases … [Read more...] about I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me, I Thank You, I Love You or Wine, Chocolate & Impulse Purchases?
Finding and Articulating the Democratic Party’s Part in This Election
Finding and Articulating the Democratic Party's Part in This Election: It is my firm belief that hatred of "the other" has fewer places to grow when people have housing, healthcare, job and food security. So, those of us who are envisioning and … [Read more...] about Finding and Articulating the Democratic Party’s Part in This Election
Do I Always Have to Do it Myself?
Maybe I'm starting a series called "These Are a Few of My Favorite Tools."Â Today's tool is: "Gathering Evidence for a New Conclusion." Author Maria Nemeth introduced this tool to me as part of her life-changing course "Mastering Life's Energies" … [Read more...] about Do I Always Have to Do it Myself?
What is Conscious Reality Anyway?
Since our new webcast is called "The Conscious Reality Show," everyone keeps asking me, "What's conscious reality mean?" Author teacher Byron Katie has said "You can argue with the way things are. You'll lose, but only 100% of the time," which … [Read more...] about What is Conscious Reality Anyway?
Are We Actually Willing to Have What We Say We Want?
Snicholsblog readers have long grokked that whether Snichols fully understands them or not, she runs with those ideas as if she does. One of those ideas I've run with for years is the concept of "Havingness" (taught to me years ago by the Berkeley … [Read more...] about Are We Actually Willing to Have What We Say We Want?
How am I wasting my vital resources defending myself instead of living abundantly?
Lately, I've been perseverating over the amount of the United States federal budget that goes to military, Homeland Security, and related expenses versus health care, housing, food, and reversing climate change so that we can actually continue to … [Read more...] about How am I wasting my vital resources defending myself instead of living abundantly?
The Conscious Reality Show with Sara Stevens Nichols has launched
I launched a webcast last week and barely told you about it. It's what the restaurants call a "soft opening," so I shouldn't publicize it further until we're ready for the hoards to watch. But in some quarters, posting on snicholsblog doesn't yet … [Read more...] about The Conscious Reality Show with Sara Stevens Nichols has launched